Is this situation weird, rude, or both?

Ok, so there is this married couple. The groom's family lives abroad and the groom can only visit once or twice a year. Then, the groom's family decide to buy him tickets for a holiday back home, as the groom cannot afford them and he knows it. The groom is over the moon and cannot wait to visit his homeland along with his family and friends. The bride is not happy with this. She would join the groom, but her finances (the couple's finances, actually) are poor. (She and her husband thus are in the exact same financial situation).She feels angry and left out for being notified at the last moment. How would you feel if you had not planned something together with your spouse and all of a sudden the in-laws pop up and ruin your plans? Isn't that rude? Tell me your opinions, women mostly, as I am almost sure men will be cynical about it...How would it make you feel as a wife and daughter-in-law? Neglected,useless..? Note again that, the husband does not give the wife much choice here..ie, she will have to stay back.